In the readings this past Sunday, Isaiah likened God to a “Bridegroom Who rejoices over His bride” (that’s us, His Church!) In the Person of Jesus Christ, God steps down from His throne, and on bended knee asks us to be His beloved bride. Jesus repeats this proposal throughout the New Testament: at the wedding of Cana, with the Samaritan woman by the well, and on the Cross when He says “it is consummated.”
We’re talking about the God of the Universe: the gentle Father, the fierce protector, the generous Provider, the sweet Consoler, the humble Servant, the charming Romancer…He’s literally “Mr. Right,” and He’s been pursuing you from the beginning. Dare we accept His proposal? If the answer is yes, then read on.
Think of the marriages you’ve witnessed (on TV, in magazines, or in real life). Which ones seem to be failing? Which ones seem to thrive? What are the qualities and practices that make marriage what it truly ought to be?
I’m not married, or even engaged, or even dating right now. So I really don’t have any personal experience to offer in that department. I do, however, watch a lot of TV, and I see how my parents interact with one another every day. I also have personal experience in my relationship with God. So, with this compilation of “experience-ish,” I’ve put together a brief marriage quiz.
- Do I tell Him that I love Him, whether I feel “in love” or not?
- Do I apologize for my little faults?
- Do I thank Him for providing for me and my family?
- Do I confide in Him with my joys, concerns and even the mundane events of the day?
- Do I love and respect His mother?
- Do I share my possessions, talents and time with Him?
- When spending time together, am I distracted or do I really pay attention to Him?
- Is He constantly on my mind?
- Do I give myself entirely to Him?
- Would I give anything not to be unfaithful to Him? Would I beg His forgiveness if I was?
- Do I trust Him?
- Do I want to please Him?
- Am I willing to put Him before myself?
- Am I committed to this relationship, for better or for worse, in sickness or in health?
- Would I dedicate more time to re-connect with Him?
- Do I just do the bare minimum of what’s expected of me?
- Do I respond favourably to His signs of affection?
- Would I give my life for love of Him?
- Do I ask Him for help? Do I gratefully accept the help He offers?
- Do I make it a priority to communicate with Him?
The most important thing is to love. If we love God and our neighbour more than we love ourselves, and if we model our love after the love He shows us, then we will have a truly divine Romance.